I’m feeling anxious and overwhelmed. What can I do?
Put your hand over your heart; count to five and inhale and exhale. Take time to quiet yourself and think of five ways that you are safe right now. It’s important to reach out when you feel overwhelmed.
- Therapists and spiritual directors are available through the Minnesota Death Collaborative (MNDC) or reach the Disaster Distress Helpline, 1-800-985-5990 or text TalkWithUs to 66746.
I’m worried about myself or a family member becoming ill. How can I reduce this anxiety?
Having conversations with your family can reduce anxiety about the unknown. Writing down your wishes and identifying what matters most is a practical way to get some relief.
- The Conversation Project, End in Mind, and Honoring Choices MN offer free resources.
- Advance care planners are available at MNDC.
I know someone who is dying but I can’t be physically present with them. What can I do?
I’ve never been around a dead person. What if they are at home longer than I anticipated?
Death is not an emergency; it’s perfectly OK if a dead person is not taken away immediately. Slow down and be present with them. With guidance, you can also care for your person’s body.
I have experience caring for the dead. Can I still care for the dead during this outbreak?
Yes, you can still care for the dead, but it’s important to take some precautions. Wear a face mask and gloves, disinfect the person’s nose and mouth, and make sure to use a plastic barrier.
- For local home death care guides and educators, contact MNDC.
- See the CDC’s guidance, National Home Funeral Alliance, and Minnesota Threshold Network.
I’ve been told I can’t have a funeral or memorial service right now. What can I do?
Saying goodbye and honoring your loved one is an essential part of grieving. Consider an online service to bring your community together. Alternatively, set aside time each day to reflect, create, or light a candle with your family or community. You can hold a service at a later date, and planning for it can be healing for you and your family.
- Celebrants and funeral directors are available on the MNDC website.
- See the MN Dept. of Health Mortuary Science Section and Funeral Consumers Alliance MN.